Wednesday, June 11, 2014

{comparison is the thief of joy}



I know over here I'm usually posting about fabulous design, pretty clothes, and fantastic DIYs, but I've got a little bit of a different post for you today. A reflection & confession of sorts.

Every time I post a photo on Instagram, I secretly think to myself "if only people could see the 10 horrible photos it took to get this one good shot," or "if they only saw just outside of this tiny square to the mess lurking behind the scenes." I posted this pic above the other day, I was feeling sick and staying home for the day - and it's true that I did sit reading on my iPad eating fabulous berries BUT what you couldn't see in the picture was that my desk was COVERED in crinkled Kleenex balls. So I guess what I'm saying is, take everything that you see people post with a grain of salt. There were ten bad photos for the one great shot you see. We are living in an age where we are bombarded with imagery, and as a blogger I definitely feel pressure to post the perfect shot. Bloggers are now being expected to be professional photographers, writers, stylists, and editors all in one. What a team of people do for a whole magazine, a blogger is being expected to do on their own, and produce as good of results as the magazines do! That's a lot of pressure. So with that pressure you now have a crop of young women displaying lives that look perfect, and that can be a wee bit dangerous. We compare ourselves with the perfect images we see others post - but remember we are only seeing a small 'Instagram-sized' square, and likely, their is a mess lurking closely behind the scenes in all of these photos.

Be weary of comparison, it's the thief of joy. There will always be someone with the perfect body, a big fabulously decorated house, an amazing job, someone who has more followers on Pinterest, someone who throws better parties, and Instagrams prettier photos. I often tell my students to think of the leather blinders that race horses wear in order to prevent them from seeing to the side. The tactic is for the horse to focus on what is in front of him, encouraging him to pay attention to the race rather than other distractions. Maybe we could all use a pair of these blinders from time to time? Comparison can make us all a little crazy, don't let it steal your joy!

14 comments:

A Perfect Gray said...

oh, boy. thanks, nancy. I so needed that. donna

Jane Gallant said...

Love this:) I think the new term for these instagram shots are "shelfies".. perfect little snapshots that show only perfection amongst the chaos. :)

Lianna@theresnoplacelikehomemke.com said...

what a nice thing to say. I have to remind myself that a lot! Especailly when you visit such talented bloggers everyday!

Albertina M. Cisneros said...

so so true....I think of this often...and even at myself when I stop a lunch to instragram the food....how silly....so often times I forgo the photo to focus on the moment. loved this post! I also, have to send you an update on the my kitchen..backsplash is up!!

Tiffany @ Savor Home said...

Posts like this serve as such a great reminder! I've had to tell myself this a lot lately as I have not had the time I used to have to devote to blogging. Thanks so much for this post!

Katy Byrne said...

Really great post, Nancy! Appreciate you sharing

Gallerie B said...

Thank you Nancy. As a blogger it is easy to fall into this trap so thanks so much for the reality check.

Emily Thompson said...

That's just what I needed to hear today! Thank you for sharing. Hugs!

Anonymous said...

Wow… what an amazing post!!! Thank you so much for being you!
You amaze me all the time of how real, genuine, humble, meek and the list goes on.
What an awesome post, and a great reminder, we can actually be liberated if we really get hold of this.

Love you Nancy!
Lots of hugs and kisses.

Margo

Crissy @ House of Marlowe said...

So true! Thank you.

Barbara Matson said...

This is one of the reasons I stepped away from blogging and am not letting it run my life. It can be so hard to see a snapshot in someone's life and not feel a pang of envy. But I know life is never perfect. Thanks for this Nancy -AND how about a coffee date soon?

Lisa McGough said...

Great thoughts, Nancy. I don't see how bloggers can't feel the pressure to churn out perfection every single day. I have to constantly remind myself that I have a job and blogging/Instagram is a creative outlet.

I read a funny quip on Pinterest yesterday that said something like..."just because someone on Instagram has a talent for making a cup of coffee look like they are at a Parisian cafe, remember they standing in their messy kitchen in their pj's...just like you. Ha ha!

Amanda MacLeod said...

Really appreciate you reminding us of all of this. Thank you.

Lindsey | Lindsey King Designs | Events-Interiors-Life- STYLED said...

Thank you for this post! I can so relate to this.

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