Now I know that you visit here to look at pretty pictures of interiors, furnishings, fashion and all of that good stuff ... but today I'm a wee bit off topic ... I hope it doesn't seem too self-indulgent because I don't mean for it to be. I want to strive to be as authentic as possible here on the blog, and you all know that I am SUPER passionate about decor but once in a while you just happen to have an off day and can't quite bare to simply post pretty pictures ...
I always appreciate when bloggers that I follow and respect open up about their personal lives from time to time and keep it real ... so I hope you don't mind when I veer here and there :) I promise some regular pretty for tomorrow!
I'm starting to look for work as I know I will be graduating in a couple of months, and I started to feel pretty down as I began to find that website after website is stating "No job postings at this time" .... not something you want to see as you move forward and plan for your future! So I mopped and pouted a bit, questioned what I am doing and if I had made the right choices for my life, and Monday night I came across this image on Pinterest ... wham!!!
Who knew Pinterest could be THAT therapeutic? And after some wise words from my parents, hubby, and friends I am re-grouping and feeling better about things today and I know that I just have to focus and trust that the right thing will eventually come at the right time. I'm not saying I'm expecting the stars to magically align for me, but I know in my heart that worrying about my next steps isn't really going to help anything and will actually hinder my completion! Any one out there identify with self doubt/uncertainty of the future like this? I'd love to hear your stories.
Ok, phew, thanks for letting me get that off my chest today! On that note, I leave you with a song my brother wrote and recorded. Not only because I am INSANELY proud of him {he wrote ALL the music as well}, but because the words are so appropriate for me right now. It's called 'Our Conversation' and talks about how we can often feel so alone, but God's reply to us is that the plans He has for our lives are so much bigger than our own plans. I'm definitely going to be holding onto that; if you have an extra few minutes I'd absolutely love for you to have a little listen ....
Hugs to you all!
41 comments:
keep your chin up! you are amazingly talented and will find something immediately. i die over that puppy picture though. he may be sad but he is darling nevertheless!
I know it's easy to say, but really don't worry. Use yor energy to be productive. Network in your field(if you haven't Already). Attend events, volunteer and put in the hours to keep applying! It will work out!
Dear Nancy, I'm undergoing your same situation; starting all over in Argentina and the general situation is not promising at all. It's hard to set high goals for oneself and then collide with "reality". Nevertheless, DON'T LOSE FAITH, keep fighting and searching to accomplish your dreams. The perfect job for you will eventually come, keep your eyes wide ope and ask your contacts for some help. You're super talented girl, this is just an adjustment time for what's going to come, which will be really good.
Your Brother's song says it all, and it's so beautiful. Remember "when you walk through the storm, you'll never be alone". Smile girl, take the most stylish umbrella you've got and go out walking in the rain for maybe your opportunity awaits you right there.
Huge hug and positive energy! XoXo Maca
Don't fret! Something great will come up when you least expect it. And be open to opportunities even if they don't seem perfect at the time. So many of my best job experiences have been at places I had never considered originally and have opened doors to greater things. Stay positive, keep smiling and all things good will come xo
I have been struggling to feel motivated and patient as I'm waiting for plans I have been dreaming of for years to pan out. I saw a similar quote on interest to brighten my spirits about how it's so easy to lack faith in yourself. I am a true believer in all things happening for a reason and for the not so good things that happen do make us stronger. Thanks for 'opening up' it makes it easier to know that other people go through the same emotions as I do :)
Thanks for posting. I'm in the same boat as you. It can be so discouraging at times, especially if you go after something and get rejected. But it's so important to keep the faith and not give up hope! Your post has truly inspired me. It's helps to know that you're not alone. Even though you may not have a job yet, God is definitely using you!
My daughter is going through the same thing. Keep your chin up!
Wow....Nancy, what a powerful post! Thank yo so much for sharing this. I've struggled a lot with self-doubt / uncertainty / worries throughout my years of studying and working in the interior design field.
You're brother's song is beautiful. I actually teared up as the verse your brother is singing about {For I know the plans I have for you...} is a prayer that my mother has adopted for me. It's become my go-to verse; and, is one that I refer back to whenever I feel lost or alone.
Thinking of you as you wait to learn what plans are in store for you!!!
Been there...and it is brutal!!! But it will turn around, sometimes things need to happen on there own schedule which doesn't always align with our timeline.
BTW your brother's song is FANTASTIC [totally sharing on FB] and I LOVE the video...is it silly that I noticed the lovely lightbulbs too.
Oh Nancy, I know exactly how you feel. When I graduated in '07 things weren't as tough as they are now but there were certainly no dream jobs to be had. Now, 5 years, 4 jobs and 1 layoff later I'm still taking it day by day. It takes time to get your career where you want it to be and hard work as well. You're talented and smart so it will happen for you no doubt. And if it someone else doesn't give the opportunity you will make one for yourself!
Head up and high girlfriend! You are so amazing and talented, AWESOME things are on the horizon for you. Believe it!
Loved your brother's song! {and I also couldn't help but notice the cool lightbulbs}
Chin up darling! Life had a funny way of not always working the way you want it too, trust me, our life took a crummy turn yesterday....so I feel your pain.
Have faith and you'll be amazed at how God plans everything ♥ Thanks for sharing your brother's music, you have reason to be proud!
This post is such a blessing and encouragement. The words and music from your brother's song are amazing! (Cute animal pics are always appreciated.)
I think it is honorable that you share your struggles. It makes you a real person and that is so beautiful! You are very very talented, and I am positive you WILL find a wonderful fit. Keep looking ahead and working towards your goal. Onwards and upwards, as my mom always says! :)
It's always such a struggle in the beginning but something will come up when you least expect it. On another note, how cute is that little dog in the first shot! Stay positive and positive things will happen to you :)
Emma xx
Hugs to you, Nancy! Plant your feet in the batters box, keep your eye on the ball, and swing at the good ones... you will be a home run hitter no matter what you do!
I thought your brother's song was very powerful... thank you for sharing with us on so many levels...
A beautiful song. Your brother is very talented!
I can relate Nancy. Now that I'm moving in a different direction than what I studied for and worked for my whole career, I've never been more scared but also more excited for what the future holds. You are exactly where you should be. Whether that perfect job comes tomorrow or a year down the road, know that its out there. You're intelligent, kind, and surrounded by readers and family and friends who support you. Like I always tell myself, you're too smart to go homeless. Nothing is insurmountable. Stay positive. I have no doubt wonderful things are coming your way!
Pretty pictures are great but these are the best kinds of posts. I appreciate you opening up and sharing your real life; struggles and all - I don't think there are many that cannot relate to what you said. That connection that we all share is what blogging is all about. I was equally touched by your brother's song - he is very talented and the words are words for the soul. I shared the link on my Facebook and if you don't mind would love to put it on my Sunday post this coming week.
Just do what you love and the rest will follow. I know that sounds trite and I don't mean it to but it is true! I know for a fact that God has a greater plan for you! You have worked hard and continue to do so, it will happen! I cannot wait to see what it is......instead of being said, be excited for the possibilities! If no one is hiring, make your own job!!!! I work for myself and there is a lot of freedom in doing so.
You are such a talented woman and something great will come along. I am a firm believer in following your heart and doors will open.
Love
Andrea
I can totally sympathize with how you feel. My job might (or might not) be ending in a year or so, and with it, my financial security. I also have been doing my best to trust in God and pray that His plan will become clear real soon!
Thank you for sharing such an honest and personal post with us. Your brother's song is beautiful, and the words speak of a wonderful truth. Hold on to them as you continue your journey, Nancy, and know that all is well.
Love your honesty. Keep the faith. You are such a talented and sweet girl!
LOVED YOUR BROTHER'S VIDEO!!!!!
What a beautiful song!!!! Thank you for sharing!!!!
Nancy
Greensboro NC USA
Nancy, I follow the exact sentiments of everyone else commenting! It will all work out. Take one day at a time and just wait in expectation for what God has next. I have been going through something similar. I was always so focused on my career and climbing the ladder and then I met my husband, fell in love, got married and encountered all of these desires and wants that I never imagined existing. For the past 5 months I have basically been a housewife after I left my 80hour week job in NYC to spend more time with the new hubby, and I don't even recognize myself-- I'm cooking dinner, cleaning, desiring to be more creative (which is how I found your blog in the first place :) )--I even took a sewing class and am looking to explore more of the my creative side...and I kinda like it. But daily, I find myself anxious about my next career move and what position to take. The worst thought is what if I don't want the crazy ambitious career world anymore? Then who am I? Does this mean, I am not a benefit to society or no longer important and just a stupid housewife? Now, don't get me wrong there is nothing stupid or small about being a housewife. I think for me the "stupid" just points to my feelings around it not being a part of MY plan. As I watch all of my friends continue on their road to greatness (doctors, lawyers, principals and architects), I fear I'm going to be left behind (yes I fear all of this after only 5 months lol of being jobless). What has helped to get me through this is battling each of these negative overly dramatic thoughts with one more positive thought about myself and reminding myself of who God is. Just wait in expectation and this will all be water under the bridge in a little while! Can you keep us posted with any updates?
Nancy, my day-job is in the HR field and I can tell you that the recruiting process takes a LONG time. If you are actively applying for jobs, know that it can takes weeks and even months for your resume to be looked at, interview scheduled, 2nd interviews scheduled, decisions to be made etc... So be patient. I also have direct knowledge of what you are going through - my fiancee finished his PhD and year and a half ago. It took almost one year to find a job in his field (during that time he continued to work in his lab) and to his disappointment the job he finally landed wasn't exactly his dream job and didn't have the dream paycheque (lol...although the latter is probably a complaint we all have!). It is hard coming out of Academia because though you have the credentials, you don't have the work experience and the job market is tight. Remember, you are a smart cookie. Even if your first position isn't your dream job, put in a couple years, then shoot for the stars. You'll get there. Best of luck!!
Oh my goodness ........... Nancy, just know that you have a huge support system with all of us crazy bloggers. I would LOVE to hang out one day and have some Nancy time, perhaps go shopping and tell you all about the things you rock at!!!!
Good for you, Nancy, for keeping it real on your blog in addition to providing us eye candy with the lovely decor photos, etc. Be flexible and recognize the potential for creating new avenues as you wait for a position of interest in your chosen field. Perhaps use your time to expand your design portfolio tapping first into potential assignments with friends and family?? God has a plan for you and things have a way of working out.
I loved your brother's song. It was incredibly uplifting. Thanks for sharing. Undoubtedly you are proud.
Ciao,
Dee Rasmussen
You are so talented and when the right thing comes your way, it will be meant to be! I love reading your blog and I know there are a lot of others who to do!!! XOXO
Girl I can 100,000% relate! I just had a down post last week, check it:
http://thedesigndaredevil.wordpress.com/2012/02/16/talk-it-out-thursday-6/
It's good to be honest and put your true wishes out into the universe
Good luck and hang in there!
You know, I've felt exactly how you were feeling too. I'm the kind of person that likes to just GET THERE ALREADY. But the older I get, the more I realize how true that quote is. I've gained some perspective and realized that all those experiences I previously had helped me in my current situation in some way. I don't like to say that it's fate, but somehow, things always seem to work out. I know they will for you too.
Since I am old...your Mom's age or older probably...whatever I say will sound so ordinary....but things always have a way of working out...you'll see. Oh yeah...your brothers song brought tears to my eyes...it was incredibly beautiful. What talent!
Oh sweet girl you have so much promise and a wonderful future ahead of you. Look at today, not tomorrow. Enjoy the day that God has given you. If doors do not open you know God kept them closed because he knows what is on the other side of the door. Once you finally release it to him you will have such peace. Now those are great words I just wrote, but I also know that we are human and that is the hardest thing in the world to do. Faith is not easy nor is it easy to not want to know why, where and when of life, but it is not for us to always know. I know I am telling you absolutely everything you already know but know this, I have faith in our God and I have faith in YOU and your special abilities.
I am very impressed with Andrew and his song, beautiful message and I love the way it was videoed! God bless you sweet girl, xo Kathysue
Hi Nancy,
I am so glad I popped in to say hello ~ I really loved your honesty, and willingness to open up to your readers. You are not alone.
One tiny piece of advice that I have found true for me personally ~ If you don't take the risks, you don't feel rewarded. Each time I stick my neck out of the comfort zone ~ I worry if I have made the right decision. Sometimes yes, and sometimes no. But, in the end, if you never tried ~ you achieved nothing, right?
We are all in the same boat ~ searching for that beautiful sunset on the horizon. Let's look for it together - always moving forward :)
xoxo Laura
I hate that you are feeling this way! I'm a bit (much) older than you...so I like to think I know a thing or two, and I know a talented person when I see one (YOU!) I firmly believe that you have great things in your future...seriously, not blowing smoke, you're just all around too fab NOT too! And, I agree with Laura's comment abut risk too! Hoping your feeling less lost today, and I think we all have those moments from time to time, its probably during them, when we grow the most!
xxx
Sue
I'm not sure if I've ever commented before, but I love your blog. And I *totally* know what you're going through - I'm looking for a job too. It's the worst part of working.
Also, your brother's song is awesome! I love it! Thanks for sharing it!
I am just reading this now and so sorry that you're going through this time. But I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. I have seen that amazing quote on pinterest before and it is so true! Hang in there and keep smiling. And even though it's tough right now, try and stay positive. The best is yet to come! :) Your brother's song and guitar playing was awesome! Very talented.
Nancy, let's have coffee—I know I have been busy, and you've been busy recently with your schooling, especially recently so, and I am the worst for scheduling time away from the studio (!) but let's :) I would love to see you and chat—I will email you this week, my friend.
xo,
Sarah
That quote was just what I needed! Thanks for sharing your struggles. Life is hard and frustrating but we just have to be strong and know that everything works out for a reason! Thinking about you and I have no doubt you will go on to do fabulous things!! Xoxo
All you can do really is put your best foot forward, give it your best, and let go mentally of the things you can't control. Easier said than done, I know. My husband had a very difficult time trying to find a job in his field (journalism) after he graduated school in '09, so I know its hard not to worry and get anxious. I found it helpful to remember that a lot of people are in similar shoes, so you're not alone. It may take some time, but you're so talented I'm certain the right thing will eventually come along.
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